A reader of this blog recently sent me some information regarding the financial cost of a mid-life crisis (*See link below). I have considered the depression and anxiety that accompanies a mid-life crisis and how choices that are made abruptly can affect the entire family (such as an affair or divorce). But I have never considered the financial cost- such as the cost of an expensive car, a breast augmentation, etc.
I also hadn’t considered that women can experience this as well. I have always assumed it was primarily about men- as the mid-life crisis is often associated with the primary provider’s feelings of being “stuck” in a career he hates. So, thank you to my reader who sent me this information- it got me thinking and doing some reading.
I found some terrific suggestions on how to deal with those feelings of dissatisfaction that often spur on a mid-life crisis. Here are some suggestions from web-md if you are in a slump and want to make wise decisions:
- Remember that your feelings aren’t commands. Just because you feel like you have to escape your home, job, or marriage doesn’t mean you have to actually do it, Margolies says. These feelings may indeed point to problems that need solving. But they may also fade or change over time.
- Be thankful for the good things. Take time to be grateful for the parts of your life that make you happy, Margolies says. Ask yourself how you’d feel if you took an action that caused you to lose them.
- Talk it over. Before you make major decisions, discuss them with someone whose advice you’ll trust, Colarusso says. A friend, pastor, or mental health professional can give you another opinion on whether you’re making wise choices.
- Ask whether your wishes are realistic. Men make plenty of successful changes in their 40s and beyond: Going back to college, traveling the world, or starting their own business. Just make sure your new goals are practical and within your grasp.
- Avoid jolting your loved ones. “Realize that you may not need to blow up your life to be happy,” Margolies says. “But if it needs to be dismantled, then doing so thoughtfully will be less destructive to the people around you.”