I met an older woman this week and we discussed a little bit about her life. Her husband died some time ago and she relayed to me that she was in complete denial that he would die, even though he had cancer and was on Hospice. She said she cried every day during that period. She said she struggled to believe her husband would actually pass away and therefore, she was unable to make plans for his funeral. Thankfully, a dear friend of theirs said he would make all arrangements and all she had to do was “sign her name”. I thought this was a true act of kindness on this man’s part to help a husband and wife in a great time of need. I think about professionals, such as social workers who can help others through this time of grief and planning for end of life arrangements.
What is best (if possible) is for a healthy couple to make these type of arrangements ahead of time. Certainly, this takes lots of open discussions and courage to plan. For more on this, see the below web site from the Federal Trade Commission.